The Gruvia fandom posts hate GrayLu tags picture..etc. and when we do they make a big deal out of it and they are always running their mouths on all social media networks, I know not all of them do but the ones that do need to understand that they are…
IMO posting stuff like this only exacerbates the problem. Pointing fingers and generalizing a fan base based on a few individual’s actions doesn’t solve anything, and all you’re doing is stirring up negative feelings amongst a majority of shippers who don’t act the way you mentioned.
Not only that, but I’m sure every shipper can point fingers at select shippers of rival pairings who act disrespectfully (or worse), not only posting hate aimed at fictional characters, but also real individuals because of their shipping preferences.
Personally, if I see Gruvia shippers posting hate (which I admit has happened, but is rare, and especially in comparison to the hate Gruvia and Juvia get from shippers of practically EVERY rival Gray pairing), I don’t acknowledge them, I don’t like their hateful posts, and I don’t reblog hate. But I’m also not here to police other shipper’s actions, the way that you seem to be requesting people to do. You can’t control an entire fan base.
So, not only is this post counterproductive, but you go on to try to paint all the Graylu shippers as above such petty behavior, while giving out vague examples of the hate you claim exists from gruvia shippers (while in your very first sentence ADMITTING that Graylu fans post similar hateful things lol), and how they make the Gruvia fandom look bad (in YOUR eyes).
The burden of proof is on the person making the claims. If you know who’s being disrespectful, why not confront them yourself, rather than trying to stir up a fan base over something that’s a general problem among ALL shippers, not just Gruvia ones?
As it is, I think this post is RUDE to Gruvia fans, because you are posting it in their tag, basically saying Gruvia fans post hate, and make themselves look bad, and “whoo Graylu is awesome!” IMO YOU are part of the problem. Who’s right and who’s wrong? Who’s hating on who’s shipping fan base here? Just you from what I see in this post.
I’ll say whatever I said to many and most understood me. You can see the other reblogs I made and see my answers to the same question. Then reply again if you do I will read it and give you an answer bcs I’m not trying to start a war. It seems It does look generlized but I’m talking to the haters (and I cleared it out with some) since they are not only bashing the ships but the shippers in a lot of other sites.
I read your other posts, but it still doesn’t change the original wording of your first post. You DID generalize. You did make it out as Graylu shippers do no wrong, and Gruvia shippers look bad because they dish out hate, and can’t take it when graylu shippers hate on their ship in turn. It also doesn’t change the fact that the post itself is hypocritical, and hinders more than helps the problem.
Basically, your entire post seems to say, “Graylu fans should be allowed to hate on Gruvia without Gruvia fans getting upset about it, because many Gruvia fans (in your opinion) are far worse, and do the same things.”
Do you really think it would be a good idea if I took your exact words from your original post, and said the same about Graylu fans in THEIR tag? It would be relevant and just as true (if not more-so), as I constantly see hate for Gruvia on twitter (and many other places besides), too. And often see Gruvia fans taking the high road when dealing with said hate. Should I address these Graylu fan haters the way you are trying to reach the Gruvia ones? Or do you think this approach might (rightly so) offend the Graylu fan base?
Again, I wouldn’t do such a post. You know why? Because your post and subsequent defenses of it, seem very petty indeed. If you want to target haters, without generalizing, the first thing you should do is not pick on one shipping fanbase. You admitted that there are graylu fans who hate on Gruvia and Gruvia shippers too. So, wouldn’t a better approach have been to direct your post to ALL FT shippers, and request that they be respectful towards each other’s shipping preferences, and towards each other as individuals who are all fans of FT regardless of what they ship?
Your post just increases the tension between two specific groups, singling out one as the bad apple, and the other as the victims. It doesn’t make anything better.
I already said that I was talking to hater I wasn’t bashing the ship itself but the haters I think you never read any of the comments some are really horrible. Sorry if you got the wrong impression but don’t put words in my mouth the title said don’t bash other ships and not gruvia fandom stop bashing graylu. No I’m sorry to be blunt but I think it’s dumb to play the shadow game and not talk for yourself. And please it’s obvious you never did read the comment some gruvia shippers are really respectful I admit but some are not “taking the high road” but soo rude. And there IS hate graylu comments IN the graylu tag!! If there is then please do so! But if not and it’s just to get back at me then please don’t because it’s not mature. If you think you know me you are dead wrong my friend. I love FT so much I have reading the manga since chapter 10 How many years ago was that? And never NEVER posted a post before? You know why? Bcs I thought some would realize and it would stop but no got ruder and some are always thinking of ways to increas it. Once again I’m not sorry for speaking my mind and if one person stops I’m happy. I’m not trying to start a war. I have spoke with gruvia fans and they understood what I was saying and I respect them.. So if you wanna hate me do it I don’t think what I said was wrong a lot of people are agreeing with me is the solid proof.
I know you weren’t bashing the ship, but you were generalizing the shippers. Which is worse. Your post title was a general one. Your first sentence was a general one. The rest of your post’s contents itself were not.
The Gruvia fandom posts hate GrayLu tags picture..etc. and when we do they make a big deal out of it and they are always running their mouths on all social media networks
I have allot of ships that I like or don’t approve of but never saw a fandom like a gruvia fandom
as for Gruvia I ‘dislike’ it because of the fandom. so rude.
I do have a message to the Gruvia fandom.
you can love your ship as much as you want, god knows. but don’t ruin your ships image.
Your entire post was directed towards the Gruvia fandom. You mentioned them again, and again, and again. And generalized again, and again, and again.
Perhaps you didn’t read your own post?
As I said previously, I don’t approve of hate of any kind, whether it comes from a Gruvia fan or not. IMO if you’re wasting your time hating on something as inconsequential as a fictional couple, or worse, hating on another REAL person because of their preferred fictional couple, that says a lot about you, and none of it is good. That being said, again, if you were only trying to single out a few people, I think directing your reprimand to the general Gruvia tag was an error in judgement. That’s my opinion.
And you may have never posted anything before, but you certainly have now. I’m not sure what it says about you that many of your recent FT posts/reblogs on your blog are negative anti-Gruvia ones. One of which says you might quit the fandom if gruvia became canon. That doesn’t sound like you’re too into FT to me, but ok. ^^; I mean, rather than wasting your time on negatives, why not flood your blog and ship tag with positives?
And, if the Gruvia hate from other shippers wasn’t plentiful, would I get anon questions like this:
The point is there are other ways to deal with the hate. As I said, I like posting positives (writing/linking/reblogging fanfiction, art, defensive essays that are far too rambly lol), rather than negatives (I dare you to find a anti-any FT ship post on my blog). Fill your shipping tag with good things to push down any crappy hate. And if you talked to the haters directly, then that’s all well and good, too.
Also, for the record I don’t hate you. I just don’t agree with how you chose to voice your complaints. As I said, your post was directed to specifically the Gruvia fandom in general. Maybe that wasn’t your intention, but I can make no other conclusion from your original post (I mean, you even only tagged Gruvia and Graylu in it). There are badly behaved shippers in every shipping fandom, so targeting just the Gruvia one, and especially generalizing it, is what I dislike and disagree with.
Edit: By the way, I just went scrolling through the Graylu and gralu tags looking for all this hate from Gruvia shippers. I scrolled until the scroll bar became pretty small. Am I missing something? ^^;
I’m just sitting here wondering what the hell a ship and shipper are
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